Del Alma: Pa’ que worry?
La nena started to cry about a “what if” the other day.
“Please, don’t waste time wondering and worrying,’’ I told her. “You don’t know what is going to happen, yet.”
And, then my words bit me in the rear. I said something I myself needed to hear.
In recent days, I have had a worry on my mind…a worry that despite my belief in “lo que viene, viene,” I can’t shake…or shake for long.
It’s easy not to worry when there is nothing to worry about, right?
But, to quote a friend: “If you’re going to pray about it, don’t worry and if you’re going to worry, don’t pray.”
That’s what I try to practice for my personal peace, and model for my child. Wouldn’t it be awesome to raise someone who doesn’t over-worry, but who goes with the flow, is the branch that bends, but doesn’t break?
Wouldn’t it be fabulous to always be that person, the one who smiles in the face of adversity? Who lives comfortably in the questions?
I try. De verdad, I do. Because I have seen chaos turn into fabulousness, and looking back, the worry fue pa’ nada.
In the grip of it all, it’s easy to forget, though. To revert to the reptilian brain that doesn’t trust fate, doesn’t understand that worry kills time badly.
But, since the “don’t worry” exchange with my daughter, I have chilled a bit, focused on enjoying the holiday season with my family — the decorating, the baking, the cheesy Christmas cartoons.
Lucky me. My little one — through words, action, gestures — reminds me of the important stuff, offers lessons that make me a happier human, and maybe even a better mother.
Life. Que special it is, indeed. Even in the midst of the messy.
But, here’s to less worry in 2013, anyway.
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