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Del Alma: Pa’ que worry?

Submitted by on December 16, 2012 – 3:19 pm3 Comments

La nena started to cry about a “what if” the other day.

“Please, don’t waste time wondering and worrying,’’ I told her. “You don’t know what is going to happen, yet.”

And, then my words bit me in the rear. I said something I myself needed to hear.

In recent days, I have had a worry on my mind…a worry that despite my belief in “lo que viene, viene,” I can’t shake…or shake for long.

It’s easy not to worry when there is nothing to worry about, right?

But, to quote a friend: “If you’re going to pray about it, don’t worry and if you’re going to worry, don’t pray.”

Wise, right?

That’s what I try to practice for my personal peace, and model for my child. Wouldn’t it be awesome to raise someone who doesn’t over-worry, but who goes with the flow, is the branch that bends, but doesn’t break?

Wouldn’t it be fabulous to always be that person, the one who smiles in the face of adversity? Who lives comfortably in the questions?

I try. De verdad, I do. Because I have seen chaos turn into fabulousness, and looking back, the worry fue pa’ nada.

In the grip of it all, it’s easy to forget, though. To revert to the reptilian brain that doesn’t trust fate, doesn’t understand that worry kills time badly.

But, since the “don’t worry” exchange with my daughter, I have chilled a bit, focused on enjoying the holiday season with my family — the decorating, the baking, the cheesy Christmas cartoons.

Lucky me. My little one — through words, action, gestures — reminds me of the important stuff, offers lessons that make me a happier human, and maybe even a better mother.

Life. Que special it is, indeed. Even in the midst of the messy.

But, here’s to less worry in 2013, anyway.

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  • Abuela says:

    Yo jamas le hago caso a esas predicciones hay muchos locos sueltos por ahi,como dice la cancion,que sera,sera.

  • Ana Flores says:

    And your life is a beautiful one. Blessed to have a little one to reflect on.
    Sometimes worries just serve to reboot us and reconnect us.
    Praying they wash away.

  • ::sigh:: Is it the hormones? Or lack thereof? Seems to be a lot of us baby boomers are feeling this way. BB’s been going through this very thing BIG TIME, and no amount of self talk is doing it for me. HOWEVER, the angels have been putting in my path wonderful posts like this one to remind me we all go through this and that it’s ok. Maybe we need to get to the end of our rope to tell God- “ya llegue al final, maneje tu” and maybe it’s His way of telling us to take things one “disaster/must do” at a time because after all, only He is a Supreme Being. There is a good side to this though- we got a post topic out of it. ; ) Abrazos y muchos BB2U
    Bohemian Babushka (@BBabushka)´s last [fabulousness] ..Showcasing Love with HeART of Haiti

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