Good Enough

A few short years ago, you would not have found me in many pictures.

In fact, aside from Christmas card photos or group photos, you’d be hard pressed to find me represented in the photos of any of our family events. I have always been more comfortable behind the camera documenting everyone else’s lives. Besides, we People Of The Round Face are not the most photogenic, but that’s not important right now.

A few short years ago, I would not even be sharing my life so openly or candidly or so…publicly.

My children’s first steps, first teeth, first foods, first bath, first days of school – all photographed and cataloged and annotated in albums. My firsts, or any other part of my own life for that matter (as the youngest of six kids from a Cuban refugee family), not so much.

I don’t know when it happened exactly. I think it was after my dad passed away and I was looking fondly at old photos of him. My dad was not particularly handsome, but I remember thinking as I looked at photos of him that he had great skin and a pleasant face and I was sad that I did not know more about the details of his life. And yes, I was sad I did not have more photos of him just in everyday life.

I realized then that I had actually been a bit selfish in my self-consciousness. By not including photos of myself and sharing my own story, I was doing my kids a disservice.

And so, in spite of my un-photogenic-ness (<—that should totally be a word), I go ahead and post my photos for all the cyber-world to see (sometimes too often? =D) and I tell my own stories with a certain amount of abandon.

So what if I’m not beautiful or particularly photogenic?

Like my dad, I’ve got great skin and a pleasant face. And that’s good enough, don’t you think?

So, tell me:

I have an assignment for you today – I want you to go to Gravatar and upload a photo of yourself. It’s very, very simple. So simple, in fact, that you’ll wonder why you never did it before. That way when you leave comments here on the Tiki Tiki we can see your beautiful faces. Then leave a comment that says, “I did it!” =D

Come on. You can do this. Baby steps!

Share, por favor!

By Marta on September 30, 2010 · Posted in the habla habla

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Posted on September 30th, 2010

Micaela Vega says:

Marta – I love this post. Photographs of you are far more than “good enough”! I too don’t often post photos of myself online – usually taking pictures of food or the kids. Here’s a recent deliberately taken photo of myself & the kids that I’d like to share, and I treasure it. (Trying not to be camera shy, thanks for the encouragement):

I thoroughly enjoyed your thought provoking entry. We all change and look different as time goes by. We should preserve that for our families and loved ones to take a peek, share a laugh, and reminisce. Thanks for the reminder.
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Maya Escobar says:

Well, this is actually quite exciting… Marta, I am not sure if Carrie filled you in, but I have been hinting about the two of you doing the Ultimate Tiki Tiki photoshoot :) This post gives me hope! xo Maya
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Maura says:

Que belleza! This made me sniffle! My dad is always the one behind the camera and while we’ve been doing geneaology research together over the last few months, I’ve learned so much about my dad just from stories about his own father that I’ve been bugging him to get on the other side of the lens more often for his kids and grandkids after he was lamenting how few photos he has of his father.

I’m not camera shy but I do tend to be in less family photos as an adult only because I’m the one with the fancy cameras. I think this year at our family holiday gatherings I’ll make much more effort to be in the pictures rather than being the photographer.

You ARE beautiful, Marta – round face and all, inside and out! Thank you for such a heartfelt post. This is exactly why I keep coming back to the Tiki Tiki!
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Roxana A. Soto says:

Marta, que buen post! And I can relate completely! I’ve never been photogenic, so I’ve never really liked being in front of the camera – and I married a photographer/videographer (not to mention that I chose journalism as a profession)!!! And then, just a few years ago, we started a small portrait studio together and I HAD to be his model because I was pregnant and we wanted to do maternity photography. I’ll never regret doing it because he took the most beautiful photos of me pregnant! I’ve never felt so radiant in front of a camera.

I love looking at old pictures of my family. Unfortunately, there isn’t a ton of my Dad when we were little because he was also a professional photographer and so he was always behind the lens. Luckily, the older we got my siblings and I all liked photography and so we made sure to document the last years of his life. By the way, he also absolutely hated being photographed!

Glad to hear you’ve changed your ways, Marta! Your kids will be very thankful one day!

Posted on September 30th, 2010

Marta says:

Hi Micaela,

What a cute photo! It looks like it perfectly captured their personalities and a fun moment in your lives. =D
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Marta says:

Hi Maya,

Yes, Carrie and I have been talking. A lot. I’m almost looking forward to The UTTP* (*Ultimate Tiki Tiki Photoshoot). *takes a deep breath*
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Marta says:


First, thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad you keep coming back!

Secondly, can I tell you just how much I love that you’re doing the geneaology research? Did you ever see this post that Carrie did about finding family roots?

Thing three: Next family gathering, hand over that fancy camera to someone else and put on a great big smile. =D

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Marta says:


Your story proves my point exactly! Thanks for sharing.

I think as bloggers, photographers, videographers we’re always so ready to document the moment that sometimes we miss it.

I am glad to hear you didn’t miss your dad’s last years.

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Dariela says:

Well, I’m so glad you decided to change that. It’s so amazing how we always find these little bad parts of ourselves so easily and look at them as really really big but at the end people sometimes don’t even realize! I haven’t always liked to be in front of the camera alone, I am ok with group pictures and because I love photography I’m usually behind the camera so it’s normal for me not to be on the spotlight, although I’ve practiced self portraits and that has helped sooo much! I recommend it!!

Oh and I have a mess of usernames for gravatar and I wasn’t even using it for pics so I hope this one displays my pic!
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Dariela says:

I don’t know how to do it, I logged in but it didn’t display my picture, boo :(
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