I got a press announcement recently about a new parenting book, and some good tips from the author: “5 Ways to Raise a ‘Good Enough’ Child.”
Among them: Let your child have his true feelings: help her not personalize criticism from others; go ahead, encourage individuality, and let her wear the pink tutu to church.
The suggestions fit right in with the other supportive parenting books I have read. And, there have been many, many, many. The announcement, and a quick recall of my large parenting library, got me thinking about how differently my generation of Hispanic-Americans parent the nenes. (When I was a kid, tutu to la iglesia? Yeah, right!). My mom has told me on more than one occasion that all Maria really needs is a good smack on the nalgas. I can’t do it, but it doesn’t mean I haven’t thought about it. A lot.
I would be lying if I did not admit to fighting my inner traditional Latina mami and going all “eh, whatever, wah, wah, vete a chivar somewhere else!”
I mean, we turned out OK. Didn’t we?
Watch the video to see me fight my Traditional Latina Mami DNA. The English version is the calm, therapized mommy; the Spanish version is my reptilian brain, my origin…and I think the much more exciting Mami!
How are you raising your kids?