Your Parenting Style. A Quiz
Do you ever study people’s parenting style or think about your own?
Have you ever met a parent who is really obsessive about cleanliness and very controlling? Take a look at their parenting style and tell me what you see. And what about parents who are so laid back about life, and so laisez-faire that the kids usually run the show — the entire show. Well, that’s personality and parenting going hand-in-hand.
Our individual personality — the sum total of the physical, mental, emotional, and social characteristics of an individual — guides our behaviors, the choices and decisions we make, and how we react to circumstances. This includes how we parent.
Although our parenting style may change according to the developmental age of our children, or the particular child we are parenting, or even how old we are when we are parenting, in general, parenting is guided by an underlying, core parenting style.
How Understanding Your Parenting Style
Learning more about our parenting patterns can be quite informative and transformative. When you understand how you behave and react as a parent, and how this impacts your child, it is easier to know what changes to make to become a more effective, wiser and happier parent.
The MotherStyles Framework
Not long ago, I learned about MotherStyles. It is a parenting style classification system that uses a framework of personality type based on the work of Swiss psychologist Carl Jung and an American mother-daughter team, Katharine Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, creators of The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator instrument. According to this system, people have innate mindsets in four different areas: energy, information, judgment, and outer-world structure.
Take the Quiz!
By answering 4 questions (here), you can learn more about your personality type in parenting. For a more expanded assessment, click here. Based on your answers, you will get categorized into one of the following 16 categories:
- The “Responsibility” Parent
- The “Action Adventure” Parent
- The “Give Them Their Space” Parent
- The “How To” Parent
- The “Tender Loving Caring” Parent
- The “Totally There” Parent
- The “Giving” Parent
- The “Happy Together” Parent
- The “Know Thyself” Parent
- The “Kids Are Fun” Parent
- The “Tuned In” Parent
- The “Heart-to-Heart” Parent
- The “Individual Integrity” Parent
- The “Independence” Parent
- The “Love of Learning” Parent
- The “Executive” Parent
As you look through this list, you might think that we all have a composite of some of these “styles.” You are right. We do. However, the premise of this assessment tool is that there is one style that dominates more than all the others.
I answered the 4 questions quiz and was classified as a “Tuned In” Parent. I have to agree with that.
Take the 4 question quiz and share your parenting style…and your thoughts. What kind of Mami or Papi are you?
Angelica Perez-Litwin, is a bilingual Psychologist and the founding editor of New Latina, a website dedicated to the personal and career success of today’s Latina women. A version of this essay appeared previously on Modern Familia.